Beast Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Yes by the way i do have alot of views that are not normal but im not normal.And i dont plan to be. Just try and imagine this.If everyone believes that sex is not intimacy that how come we arnt just having sex with anybody we see as in walking down the street. There is something about sex that most people have behind closed doors and its kept private. Does that not describe intimacy 1. close or warm friendship or understanding; personal relationship2. (often plural) Euphemistic sexual relations Even if your having sex with a stranger it is somewhat intimacy because you are with them and not someone else at that moment but doesnt last. I know its unrealstic."wait for your soul mate" but it must be more special that way,You can hardly tell me no one wants that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iNow Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 (edited) Just try and imagine this.If everyone believes that sex is not intimacy that how come we arnt just having sex with anybody we see as in walking down the street. There are a few answers to this. First, sex has consequences, and babies are a huge investment of time and resources, as well as a potential health risk. Further, we live in a society where some things are taboo, and those taboos influence people's behavior. Finally, you have to think of the old saying, "It takes two to tango." Both people need to agree that they want to have sex with one another before it will happen. The chances of them meeting and feeling this way about one another at the same time are small. One may be attracted, but the other not. One might be committed to another partner and not want to ruin it. One might be tired, or distracted, or not horny... There are tons of reasons why we don't just have sex with anyone we see, but it's not just about a lack of intimacy. Intimacy is critical when you share an emotional connection with someone, but not all sex is intimate, nor does it have to be. Not everyone equates sex with love or intimacy. I know its unrealstic."wait for your soul mate" but it must be more special that way,You can hardly tell me no one wants that That's fine, and it's noble, too. There is nothing wrong with that. I'm just proposing that overall in the animal kingdom intimacy doesn't seem to be the primary motivator for sex (we do it because it's pleasurable, and it's pleasurable because those who enjoyed it and did it more tended to do better through evolution than those who did not). Edited January 5, 2012 by iNow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Xenon Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 (edited) NAMBLA passes it out NAMBLA is a terrorist organization that targets boy-children for hate crimes of a sexual nature. Just imagine the societal outrage if there was a NAMGLA This is just so unfair for boys. To be fair, society should either eliminate namBla or allow the existence of a namGla. For a warm-hearted, compassionate individual like me -- who respects right from wrong -- it is very upsetting that the same men-of-the-society-of-humans who are protective of girls, are also abusive of boys. Edited March 28, 2012 by Green Xenon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightburst Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Perhaps it all started through the idea of sexual immaturity in terms of mate selection that then eventually led to this social stigma as humans became more civilized? Maybe people just couldn't accept the idea in terms of being an animal and instead rationalized and made it an ethical dilemma. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MonDie Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 Something about it does seem wrong to me even if the child is pursuing the adult. Particularly, I'm imagining a young female propositioning an adult male. Maybe it's because little girls are so girly, and I'm disgusted by that extra innocent girliness. Those little girls dressed up like women for pageants just make me shudder. I suppose a young girl who wasn't being exposed to that girly garbage might not be approaching older men. The same could be true for young men who approach older women. Even at the ages when they have mating urges, it seems unnatural for them to proposition someone who they have had no prior intimate interactions with. For example, a student who is trying to prove his masculinity might proposition the teacher even though he has a much more friendly and intimate relationship with some of his peers. I once heard this argument, although I don't know where the speaker learned this. The children are victims because they cannot experience intimacy when the act is with an adult. A result of this sex without intimacy is a disconnection between intimacy and sex, so they can never enjoy intimate sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moontanman Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 I will say this one more time, adults should never be sexually involved with children, childish sex games are just that for children and no adults should ever been involved, an adult sexualizing a child always results in some harm, if not physical then mental harm that results in a twisted view of what sex is, often poor self esteem and an inability to function as an adult sexually. I was sexualized as a child, i know intimately what it does to you, how it affects your self worth your self esteem and your own sense of what to expect from partners in adult sex. It totally fucked me up and prevented me from having the confidence to go to university. If you are thinking of doing it don't! If you are doing it stop and turn your self in so you and the child can get counciling, there is no excuse for it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MonDie Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 Thank you Moontanman. I don't have much to relate to the topic because I'm still only 19, and I haven't read about any case studies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fuzzwood Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 Off-topic: i don't really see the point of faking it. If it were with me a woman felt the need to fake it, I'd rather have her just tell me it was dull and encourage me to spice it up a bit... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Superfusion Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 I will say this one more time, adults should never be sexually involved with children, childish sex games are just that for children and no adults should ever been involved, an adult sexualizing a child always results in some harm, if not physical then mental harm that results in a twisted view of what sex is, often poor self esteem and an inability to function as an adult sexually. I was sexualized as a child, i know intimately what it does to you, how it affects your self worth your self esteem and your own sense of what to expect from partners in adult sex. It totally fucked me up and prevented me from having the confidence to go to university. If you are thinking of doing it don't! If you are doing it stop and turn your self in so you and the child can get counciling, there is no excuse for it... I would say that i 100% agree with you here. It can ruin it later and many other things later. Not to mention the damage it can cause outside your sex-life. Having confidence is key in success all over life. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Xenon Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 If an adult makes sexual contact with a minor, the psychological distress experienced by the minor is so intense that it physically-damages his/her brain. Read more about the damage to the central-nervous-system caused by child-molestation: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_sexual_abuse#Neurological_damage Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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