Stephen001 Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 I'm posting this because I'm hoping against hope that this is a known obscure disorder, because I don't know what to do any more. This is a very odd problem I have and hopefully I can make it understandable This started around the time I started highschool, I'm in college now. I'm shy and have problems being myself in social interactions, but this is not my problem, my problem is that the attitude I took towards this at the beginning of high school is that, and this is going to sound very odd and hard to understand perhaps, but that I can't live until I've solved this problem. What I mean by can't live is that everything I do in life, every moment of my every day is devoted to resolving this problem, and I don't do anything for purely life purposes. I know this sounds very strange and is hard to understand, let me give you an analogy: In sports, say boxing, you can sometimes tell that a fighter, even though he is still in there, and fighting, he is no longer trying to win (because he has become discouraged, or beaten up, or no longer believes he can win, or wathever). So the guy is still throwing punches, but he is no longer trying to win. In my case, my attitude is that I'm not living. I'm sitting on the sidelines of life, so to speak, until I can solve this problem (my shyness). So even though I function, I go to school, I function, outwardly, normally, I'm not really IN life, because my attitude is that there's no sense being in it until I can resolve this problem. I'm aware that this is a bizzare attitude, I'm even aware that it defeats its own purpose (it's purpose is to resolve my shyness, but it is actually IMPEDING that, and I know that I CAN accomplish that, but only if I shed this attitude), but still I can't seem to shake this attitude. Again, I know this sounds completely insane and perhaps incomprehensible, but does this sound like anything that is known in psychology? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Cuthber Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 It is possible that someone here is qualified to answer that. But, if they are then they will know that you can't make a diagnosis from a post on a webpage. You need to seek professional advice about this. On the other hand it seems reasonable to point out that grave shyness isn't very rare and it is treatable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phi for All Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 I think the perfect solution is to overcome your shyness just long enough to meet the medical professional who is going to help you solve this problem. As JohnCuthber said, a proper examination is necessary for a proper diagnosis. So, you have one thing to do. One life-affirming, non-bizarre, perfectly normal thing that's done every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fiveworlds Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 Everybody has problems acting like themselves in a public setting. Some people even put on facades to make themselves look better in the public eye. They buy fast cars and fancy things that make them appear to be more socially acceptable. From the girl who will block you on facebook if you put up a photo of you and her on a night out she doesn't approve of to the guy who spends a ridiculous amount of time engaging in sports. To appear more socially acceptable within their demographic. This stems even to more public places like restaurants refusing entry to people because they aren't wearing jeans/a suit. It is absolutely normal to feel shy around others and to make yourself want to appear better to your peer. Hence this idea of peer pressure where bad behaviors such as drugs and smoking are forced upon people because it is seen to be more socially acceptable with a peer group. Generally more intelligent people seem to have a low emotional quotient in that they have difficult conversing with their less intelligent counterparts because they don't understand the reasoning behind why people act in this manner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen001 Posted April 3, 2015 Author Share Posted April 3, 2015 The issue is not really the shyness. I know I could get through that, if I could shake this attitude that I've taken about it and can't seem to shake. Of course, I'm not expecting that someone will treat me online, I'm just curious as to whether anyone will recognize in my description some known condition. Again, its not the shyness that's the problem, tho. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fiveworlds Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 Unless this is an attitude you can change yourself. Maybe you're a tad bit stressed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phi for All Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 The issue is not really the shyness. I know I could get through that, if I could shake this attitude that I've taken about it and can't seem to shake. It makes no difference. If the real problem is this feeling of defeat, a medical professional can help you with that as well. That's why I said, do this one thing. It's a big problem with a simple solution. Simple, but maybe not easy. But it's just the one thing, make an appointment with a doctor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hypervalent_iodine Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 ! Moderator Note Please seek help from a professional. This is not the place for such advice, as has been said. Thread closed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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