raphaelh42

@iNow i guess i meant freedom from human rules

I've read only the 1st post and would like to say something that i believe will hurt some people because they wouldn't want to accept it's true i believe if you want real freedom, you need to learn to live naked, without money, like an animal you need a huge place: alaska, amazon rainforest... there you will be free but in society you will never be free, even the house you paid, the land you paid or inherited, is property of the government i believe complaining sucks, either try to participate in politics to change the rules, either leave the society when i hear people say stuff like "hey wtf i'm not paid enough how will i feed my children" i think it's pathetic

I appreciate your recommendations @Sensei @MigL If you imagine two persons who want to suicide, one is too afraid to do it, and the other one does it, do you think the one who "manages" to do it is just a bigger coward+more hopeless? I think a subject i wanted to bring is that death being the last step, i imagine a guy who would not want to lose time, let's imagine even not a sad guy The guy would just chose not to be a slave of its brain asking dopamine, neither of its self-preservation, he would just go straight to the final step, or maybe we can say the farthest step we know about i imagine that guy just doing the act, to go directly see the end, we could say he didn't merit the luck of being alive since he ditched it But here we can try to imagine he doesn't do it because life is too hard etc or i don't know... i think it's kinda badass and maybe even admirable to say "fu*k it i wanna see what comes next" Maybe considering solipsism a big possibility increase this way of thinking Who says you should not die because you are alive... Maybe the trap is indeed to try to grab as much time and dopamine as possible, while as fast as you leave, better it is...

Death is the final step of our lives We don't kill ourselves for 3 reasons: Responsibility: Not to abandon your family who needs you Fear: bypassing self-preservation is so scary Joy: we prefer to give dopamine to our brain than becoming unconscious (and yes religious people could say suicide = hell... (they know what we don't know)) If one ditches the 3 points mentioned above to kill himself, you might say he acted as a coward, because of point No.1 I guess we can all agree you need to have either big balls, either big hopelessness to ditch No.2, so it's not cowardice Regarding the last point, refusing giving dopamine to the brain, is not cowardice neither, imo, don't hesitate to share yours So, regarding point No.1, here is what would prevent suicide being an act of courage Imagine someone with no children, but parents, this person would make his parents sad, and would not be able to help them when they will be old and would need being washed etc ... although it seems some children pay people, for their parents to be put in some building, to be washed by employees paid to do it I consider that if you go to live so old that you need people to wash you etc, you are not honorable. So, i have no children, point No.3 i think is pathetic, and I admire point No.2 If i kill myself, would you consider i've been a coward? Why? ps: please don't tell me to go see someone, i don't want to give money to someone to obtain tips about being happy

Maybe wondering/believing in solipsism can either be illness, cowardice, but also something else? in my case i don't believe in free will at all, i don't think it's to escape responsibilities, it's just it seems obvious to me that 100% of the present is influenced by the past, not by some instant thoughts coming only from yourself regarding solipsism, i feel it could be very possible, i feel that when you die you maybe like wake up from a dream, in the other dimension Maybe in some matryoshka doll system But i don't believe in that 100%, i just can't believe the universe is not contained in something else, bigger, or different...

It could be i agree, kinda like the fact that not believing in free will could be an excuse to deny responsibilities

Lol that makes me think about maybe that's the situation of some god @Eise I struggle to understand your message, it seems to me you give arguments that solipsism can't/is not true I don't see any thought that could convince me that it is not Since (if i understand correctly) the brain has the ability to make you live in a world that don't exist, like when you dream, i think solipsism could be true ... or it could be the "simulation hypothesis" being in progress But when you wake up in the "real reality", maybe some other people like you are/were in the same state Maybe we are in a game Maybe we intentionally forget the reality when we enter to be able to fully enjoy the game... Btw maybe we are all real but our real "body" is somewhere else ......... but last time i thought about it and since we are born in this fake reality, that could mean we never existed in the real one .... SOOO maybe the only real person is in the real reality, and all the new humans in this fake one are just hmmmmmmm idk xD But i like the idea that unless you don't know 100% of all there is to know, if you just know 99.9%, then maybe the last 0.1% remaining is the info that all you think is real is in fact not

Thanks @KJW @Rudolf I didn't really seen it like that ^^ But that makes me think about the fact we don't all see the colors looking exactly the same Could you share some of the ideas you have in mind regarding reality?

Hellooo Regularly I wonder if maybe the reality, the life i live, all i see, is generated by my mind like in a dream -> i feel, see, communicate, but it's all in my head is there a theory for that ? ps: sorry i know wondering about this can be quite offending because i bring the idea that maybe you are not real (lol...) an idea i have about this is that maybe somewhere else, in the real world, i enter this reaility (which would not be real in the end) and i don't know it's not really real, on purpose, you intentionally forget Maybe you forget because the real reality is horrible, maybe you are alone in there, and this reality is a way to escape and maybe each time you die, you start again 😱

I was just wondering if gazans can walk out of Gaza, like to go in another country And if there are some walls or fences, i'm wondering if they try to bypass it, do they get shot @https://www.unocha.org/publications/report/occupied-palestinian-territory/movement-and-out-gaza-update-covering-january-2022 I read: Palestinians are banned from leaving Gaza via Israel Could they leave by Egypt... It looks like they can by some "Rafah crossing" @https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rafah_Border_Crossing: Various sources reported that for several weeks, the Egyptian government had refused to allow either Gazans or foreign nationals to exit Gaza via the Rafah crossing Although on internet I read that more than 100k gazans were allowed to leave by there It's messy, sad(, i don't think i want to spend more energy to try understand more about this war because it seems to me it's caused by a religion difference i despise religions, so giving it too much energy somehow would mean that something i consider weak, is strong enough to impact me, so that would me i'm weak i guess)

I appreciate the info you provided, but it's still not clear to me If you will, let's imagine a man in Gaza, a regular Gazan Suddenly he wants to leave Gaza, on foot, one step after another, heading to go in Israel, either in Egypt What next, walls/fences everywhere? Try to climb = shot? No wall -> pass = shot? jail? Go around the wall by water = shot?

I'm wondering that since the war started, if there are any news reporting about some Gazans trying to go beyond the seal. I mean just to leave Gaza, or leave the refugee camps I've heard about some Gazans getting shot when trying to go get some food packages I haven't see any reports telling Gazans were allowed to leave, i've just saw some youtube thumbnail with some text about some Gazans leaving Gaza

Hi Some time ago, i've heard that Gazan couldn't go away to avoid the bombs I understood that if they tried to leave Gaza, they were physically prevented/shot Is it true? I understood that some are leaving these days, like without hiding, were they allowed to leave all this time? The subject is not about "to go where" regards

I'm now able to reproduce the issue: send a message in a thread send another one, so they get merged click to edit the message only the first part will be present in the textarea click "clear draft" makes the second/merged part appear it's a bug isn't it?

A compensation? Like I propose the person to beat me and then we are even? I don't think doing this anonymously is the appropriate way, at least for this case, or for what I want... I mean I could still send a lot of money anonymously and then maybe feel a bit better, like I did something good I think i'm more interested about apologizing, so not anonymously, but yes why not proposing something to the person, like proposing to revenge or something..... I didn't physically harm a person, I recorded and shared an intimate media file Although in the end it can still harm physically... I know i've been a piece of shit for doing that I didn't know, I don't really have an idea to which programs to look at, never participated to such, I guess I should look into Alcoholics Anonymous _ _ For like many years I didn't think about it, then i've stopped smoking thc, then the memory came back _ _ test _ _ test2

Hi I've betrayed someone 15 years ago. For a long time, i didn't think about it. Now i've stopped drugs, it came back, and it kinda burns me everyday. I have the possibility to send a message to the person, to apologize. But wouldn't that be too late? Wouldn't that be egoist? Like just to feel better? Or maybe I don't know what a proper apology is? Should I just keep living with it? Maybe it's the price to pay. But, I was thinking, if apologizing would be positive for both sides, then I would do it, but I'm not sure I would make things worst, bring back and old memory, provoke anger... should I just take the risk...

I appreciate all the info you are sharing By happiness i meant like some basic contentment What i find depressing, is I feel i'm just the slave of my brain, it wants those dopamine etc, and i'm here to please it, and will just do this all my life It's kinda weird to think/worry about this, but i wanted to share this thought anyway, probably mostly to read from you, hoping to remove this depressing feeling, by seeing other perspective about this, but in the end i guess i'm mostly spreading the feeling, although i hope not, except if it can be useful

- I think i understand, i guess my problem is i think too much about "what is the purpose", instead of enjoying and living my grand father told me that when i was very young, and they proposed me stuff like let's go see ducks at the pond, i said like "for what purpose?"... i guess i should try to let go someday

I'm never bored, i work on huge projects, for other species and the environment, it's just the idea that in the end, i do it just to be happy, i think it's like egoism

i agree that when you seek for safety, then i believe it doesn't come to your mind that seeking for happiness is boring Seems to me too What comes to my mind is climbing without rope, when i'm up, i feel no boredom, no sadness, no anger, i feel fear, and i only think about my movements, for my safety And when i'm back down, i feel safe, and happy for some time, reassured, even kinda proud I guess setting up some rotation between danger and safety might be a way not to experience/remain in state of boredom/sadness caused by how it's easy to remain safe

I meant that no matter if you are happy or sad, when you know that after safety, the only thing you will seek for is happiness, it's like end of the story, you know what you will always try to do, be happy, or stay happy But in the end the goal remains the same, they do this to be happy I would rather say it's the first step to remain alive I think you can be sad and never bored, it's a bit my case Can you be happy while not feeling alive? Can you be happy while being bored? I think you can be in the state of seeking for safety, and being sad, but not bored Would that mean that happiness, brings boredom, and then brings sadness... i think i've heard like boredom is a luxury, it kinda make sense after all

In the end it seems to me that before seeking for happiness, we seek for safety i don't remember feeling depressed during adventures in the wild, making shelter, trying to fish, making fire, i felt rather alive I think it's then, when you can satisfy safety easily thanks to modernity/money, then it's just about wanting extras, entertainment, hapiness

i agree i'ts more complicated if the cat is a human My dad had a goat and one day he foud it dying in agony (maybe it would have survive, i know), maybe poisoned or something, he killed it to make its (their) pain stop He just told me today that he did it by breaking its cervical vertebrae, a quick and strong movement So i guess what you see in horror movies is true when it occurs on humans, in the end i guess this is what i could do, to answer question of this thread I didn't expect it's really doable mostly on animals of this size regarding if the cat was a human, that makes me think about the movie "Million Dollar Baby", there the agony is mental

I appreciate your sharing, thank you i think my biggest problem is i don't know when to eye contact, it's not natural at all for me When i share an activity with people, like a common goal, i do eye contact naturally But when i pass unknown people on the sidewalks of my city of 50k people (~1 person per minute i think), i don't want to eye contact, i would prefer if they wasn't there so if i initiate the hi/nod, that can't really be pleasant for both sides, since the intention is negative, i think that's the real cause of my problem, i keep initiating without wanting to -> So now, i plan to never initiate anymore, and if i somehow feel the person watches me, then i will verify and if the person indeed eye contact me, i will do too, during like one second After that second, if the person done nothing, i would have done absolutely nothing neither, no more initiation from me. I will look towards my direction again If the person did say hi/nod, i would have done too Seems like i found the solution to my problem, nice

I couldn't find any sociology category so here i post This thread might sound dumb but in my case i have a big issue regarding this subject and i hope to learn about it and get recommendations When i'm walking on a sidewalk to go from A to B, and i see a person or a duo/trio... coming towards me, i'm let's say in pain I keep thinking about them, are they thinking about me, when should i start watching them to say hi, if they don't watch me while i watch, should i watch again in 2 seconds, and again? Is there any system to apply when passing people not to have to bother worrying and feeling awkwardness? (when it's a street with ton of people like in movies i just ignore everyone) Most of the time in streets, when it's two people coming, i never look at them, i do like they don't exist They are not alone like me, they do their stuff, we are strangers to each other, we will probably never pass each other again, i think it's like useless to say hi But when it's a single person, i would feel it really sucks/be weird/sad to pass each other like we are not here When it's two people in forest trails, it's horrible for me, i can't ignore them, i get like the same feeling as when it's a single person, i couldn't ignore them, probably because it's a nice place without too many people Often i quickly look at them, say a quiet hi, then look back to my direction, and hear no response, it kills me, i'm starting to think i will now just never look at people anymore when passing them, maybe even single persons Maybe they feel i don't want to pass them and i say hi just to be polite/be positive ___ should i have posted in "Psychiatry and Psychology"?