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I'm doing a survey on public opinion on Abortion the specific question is:

 

For those persons that disagree with abortion would you change your mind based upon the following situation question:

 

Can you consider rape victims abortions justifiable based upon lack of consented intent to become pregnant?

 

Thanks for any responses I get please state whether your male or female by typing (m) or (f) next to your response and if I'm lucky enough your age too thanks a million. I hope to get at least 100 responses through online responses and in person responses.

 

Teri

(f)

It's not justifiable at all. Whether or not she liked it, life is growing inside her. What she should do is give birth to the child, and if she doesn't want to keep it, then she should give it up for adoption, that way, the child will live and a precious life is not lost.

Tip for you gals: alcohol is the perfect excuse...

Perfect excuse for what?

There's nothing more that I can say, herme. You've got the situation under control.

It's good-your decision to wait. Give her a week or two to send you an e-mail or give you a call. Then, send her an e-mail or call her to know how she's doing. Always give a girl time, because it's almost always what they want, time and space.

I think it's going to turn out fine with you and your friend. It doesn't matter if she doesn't talk to you when she's with her friends, what matters is that she talks to you. It may be that she doesn't talk to you when she's with her friends because she does not know how to connect their conversation with you...maybe they have a different line of thinking and they talk about things that you don't usually do. It happens to me all the time since I have two sets of friends. One set for eating lunch with and for hanging out with in the classroom. The other is a set of friends for going home with. My friends in the classroom talk about boys and all the girly stuff, or the most profane things. And my going home with friends talk about serious things or the silliest things that my classroom friends don't get. Maybe its like that with her. You did say that you are considered to be a weirdo in your school, so naturally, your ideas and her friends' don't jive. I'm not sure, but that's how I see it.

Really?!

 

My 'friend' also confided her deepest' date=' darkest secrets in me, and then fell into a vegetative state when I told her that I liked her.

 

And Hermes, don't believe in luck. Do believe in pure logic.[/quote']

 

What was her deepest,darkest secret, anyway? If it's about her liking a boy...and that boy is not you...then, dude...you totally messed it up. Maybe it wasn't the right time to tell her. You should have just waited for the right time, took time to read her actions...to make sure that she won't freak out. If she really was your friend, then you should have known better not to tell her that time.

Hullo' date=' herme3 & co.

 

Been reading this thread for some time now, and I'm not entirely sure how to address it. It's...complicated, if I may say so. I guess that is just to say the least But anyways, it would make sense to address the most recent stuff, so I guess I'll just do that. *ahem* Graduation....hmm...an event that comes to the mind with several mixed feelings. It's an exciting, nerve-wracking, and heart-aching event all at the same time. After spending several happy years at my school, graduation was the big red flag that told me that the dreaded moving period was approaching very quickly. And it did. I'm currently still coming to grips with this fact, and even now I don't seem to realize that I won't be going back to high school again. My present that was build upon routines of waking up every morning, going to school and greeting people is now somewhere in the past, and it's time to move on. Again, a very difficult time of transition that is difficult to come to terms with. Okay, sorry. I'm just rambling on about what's going on in my life now when I should be addressing yours

 

Well, herme3, honestly...I don't think that a friendship should be this hard to figure out. I dunno, I think that perhaps you're making too much of a big deal out of it. Is it trying to hard? I'm not sure. What I mean is, you talk about this wonderful girl being your best friend, and how you want things to remain that way so badly. It's pretty obvious that you care about where this relationship turns by posting your issue on this forum. But I honestly dunno how much of a help we're being And besides, you're going about planning your next moves and stuff. How to act around her, what to do, etc. You're discussing this with other people who perhaps don't truly understand what type of friendship you two have, thus making it difficult for all of us to give you good advice. If you should discuss this with anyone, it should be someone who knows both of you. Rewinding things a bit, I find something odd about planning everything, technicalities and stuff when it comes to this girl. Eventually, u start to care too much about what she thinks of you and you only try to please her. You a call her your only friend, so what does this amount to? Is she your only friend just because you please her? Well, that's not too happy. If we all worried about what people thought about us, that we'd be too occupied to truly enjoy a friendship that we believe to be there. Don't try to please people; you end up trying to be like everyone one else, and in the end, you are no more unique than they are, which is boring. Also, you may become disappointed with yourself.

 

I grew up moving more often than I liked, encountering people of several different beliefs, ethnicities and backgrounds, and so it was difficult to establish strong friendships of trust, much less happiness. On top of that, I was way shy, and that always left me in the dust. My idea of friends was only having someone with whom I could eat lunch with, and after that, the days consisted of only following them around, pleasing them, and doing as they asked. Basically, I pleased people because I was afraid that they wouldn't like me otherwise. I think I developed a little insecurity after that, due to lack of confidence. I hated being alone, yet I've had to deal with it, as a result of my shyness and way too many language barriers to adjust to. All in all, my life was about schoolwork and what people profiled me as. After a while, i realized that this life was the pits, and so I tried to take things a little step further: i tried to get over my shyness my talking. It didn't matter to whom or what I said, and fortunately, it all went uphill from there. I guess that somewhere in the eleventh grade, I said "oh screw" to what people thought about me, and I found myself laughing more and feeling very happy. Personally, I don't care what people think about me anymore, and I've been told more than once how people think that I'm rather "weird", "abnormal", etc. But you know what? I happen to like my uniqueness and who I am, and I've many friends who feel the same way, who are also equally considered "abnormal" This year in particular, school has been very trying, and my fellow classmates and I found ourselves required to make some pretty difficult decisions where we were pretty divided among ourselves. It was a time during which we really had to establish who we are, and there was no time to go around pleasing people. It wasn't always fun, but it happened. Ugh, rambling about myself again, moving on...

 

Going back to pleasing this girl, I can just tell you to not try to fit in with her popular friends. Just be who you are. If she really likes you as a friend, then she can care less whether you are weird, or a loser, or whatever. You can say the most random thing or send a letter and she would just laugh it off easily. I think that's the most priceless thing about friendship: you don't have to be so careful about who you are, cuz you're free to be yourself. Of course, you have to mind the huge trust factor that is involved, but that's besides the point It's difficult to be alone, but I guess sometimes that is an obstacle that comes along when finding true friends (I can count all my good friends on one hand Maybe two, if I'm lucky).

 

Just as a last thought, in addressing to the event of girls freaking out when being asked out by a guy, I plead guilty I have to admit, at those particular moments, I felt like booking out. It's a strange feeling, but it happens. I think i could describe it as fear. Of what? I still am not sure. Rejection? Not likely, since I'm being the one asked, not the one asking. Expectations? I think that is the most likely. I don't like having people set expectations for me, and I don't want to have to fulfill them. So i mean, afterwards, u end up avoiding the guy concerned, and have the sign "GO AWAY AND LEAVE ME ALONE" on your forehead. But I guess I'm gettinf over those defense mechanisms. Otherwise, I'm not too interested in having a boyfriend. I think that there is something great about a casual friendship that would be lost if involved in a relationship. But again, I wouldn't know, having never been in one But yeah, there's one explanation as to why girls freak out at being asked out, though it's just according to me.

 

Another, I don't think that she forgets that u're a guy. She's just so comfortable talking to you that she just doesn't CARE.

 

All in all, don't spend your time trying to get her to like you even more; be yourself. Just try to preserve what you have, and maintain it. Long distance friendships are tough burdens to bear, but the ones that matter will last for quite some time. Well, if the effort is put into it, that is Be a good friend to her. That's the most that you can do, and perhaps the only thing that you really have to do. Send the occasional letter checking up on her; send a birthday card, anything to let her know that you haven't forgotten her and that you miss her. She will most likely get the message There can almost be nothing more risky, more challenging, or more memorable than a good friendship. Cherish what u have, and give urself a bit more credit. We'll see what happens, eh?

 

Best of luck,

 

Tiger

 

P.S. Sorry, i know this probly won't make a lot of sense the first time I was just writing.'

 

P.P.S. Ugh, long post. Apologize for that, too. Hope you can get SOMETHING out of it, herme3 [/quote']

 

Well said,tiger.

I have a question, herme. Don't take it seriously, though. I'm curious, does she seriously think you're not a guy? Or are you acting sort of gayish around her?

If she forgets you're being a guy, then that must be a sign that she is your friend, and that she thinks your different from all the other guys out there. My guy friend thinks I'm a lesbian...but he's not the guy who I'm planning to send the letter to, he's my new friend, I met him when I was still a freshman, but we were never friends then, until sophomore year began. He thought I was a lesbian...and he told me that weeks after graduation...myabe because sabbath and I are different from all the other girls out there. We're sort of boyish...but we don't dress like guys, we just act boyish, play pc games, don't dance or sing, doesn't care about our appearance-we have the messiest hair...so anyway...that's that. I think she considers you a friend...I mean the way she can talk to you about her love life...not all girls talk about their love life to just anyone, especially a guy...and since she told you that...then you really are her friend...or so I think. I don't know, it's hard to say.

I do hope your letter turns out okay. And I do hope she'll like it and reply to you. My warmest good luck!

I think giving her a call is less creepy/awkard. That way, you'd be able to talk with her, hear her voice and hear the tone of her voice, whether she's creeped out or not, and you can ask her if she's okay with you calling her just to say how important she is. Hmm...through a letter, you can write all that you want and all that you think she needs to know, but you will never know her reaction unless you see each other and have a chat, or she mails back at you.

It would seem awkward if you see each other in school. Or maybe it won't. It's so hard to explain. Maybe it won't be creepy/awkward. I mean, sending a letter to her is similar to sending a mobile message. So I guess it will be okay. I don't know. I've never tried that-sending a letter to someone. But I'm planning to.

My oldest friend's birthday is coming up and I'm planning to send him a letter. We're not in the same island anymore and I'd like to keep our friendship, almost like your situation, herme. But I don't know what to write. And I think he'd be creeped out if I will send him the letter. I'm hoping he'll find it sweet and awfully nice of me to do so...and won't get creeped out. I asked for his address a few days ago, so I'm hoping he's got an idea why I asked for his address.

You'll know her reaction anyway, so you don't have to know why we think it's creepy. Maybe she'll find it sweet, as what I told you the first time you told us about the letter.

The pleasure is mine. How did you do in your test?

Inappropriate? But why?

Hmm...to come and think of it...it's actually weird. I mean it'd feel really akward if after she reads your letter you accidentally see each other in school. Wow. Really akward.

Thank you, again, for all the replies! No more questions from me about this anymore. I think I understand what you all mean. Thanks again!

Why don't you ask the professor for some ideas? I'm sure he's got a good one stashed in his brain. But it won't be original anymore.

I'd like to give it a try-to guess your personalities and stuff. But I suck at guessing people's personality through avatars and names. It's a completely different story when I see the person, though. So that's that. I'll leave the guessing to you.

How can you think that it is creepy to send her a letter, but not see anything wrong if I just showed up at her house? That would be really creepy, and I would expect her to come out with a gun and shoot me. I would deserve it if I did anything that creepy.

LOL!

What is a friendly letter, cloud? Isn't that a letter, too? And what do you write in that letter, huh? About your friendship, how thankful you are, how special your relationship is, you want to end or keep it, etc. There is nothing creepy about it whatsoever. How can you say it's creepy? It's sweet. And I'm not joking. Maybe corny, but not creepy.

So you're all saying that we will evolve if our environment changes...a very big change at that. But how do we evolve? Will we grow fur if our environment suddenly becomes colder (IceAge)? Grow fur, grow gills...something like that...mutate?

That much I realised,and that's why it's tough to say anything about you without further observations.Some times you are more mature then your sister,sometimes,as you have put it,a "brat".Sometimes(it may be from a split sec. to a min. or a few min.),your maturity and understanding is way beyond your sister's,and more often,you cover it with a shroud which does seem to make you a brat.Some times you hide yourself from yourself because of some unknown fear and try to play the role of a very normal person(by social scale).And sometimes,it just surfaces itself.

Hmm...you're actually right. I am that person. But not entirely that kind. I still have a personality I myself don't understand. Or maybe I'm jsut pretending I don't. I'm such a pretender.

What am I supposed to do after the classes end? I'll probably have a job when I start college so I will need to go to work. She will go to her job earlier in the day, and her classes will start hours after I leave. They have a wide range of class times, from early in the morning to late in the evenings....

Then I guess that's that. No hope of you meeting her at all. I feel so sad for you...you're so darn depressed! And you are so negative! What are you, a depressed hippie?

Actually, I'm sending it through regular mail, not e-mail. I thought that would seem more thoughtful. Do you think it's a good idea?

Two thumps up! It's an awesome idea! Great work! It would seem sweeter that way.

I found this in wikipedia. It's easy to understand.

Electrolysis is a method of separating bonded elements and compounds by passing an electric current through them.

An ionic compound is dissolved with an appropriate solvent, or otherwise melted by heat, so that its ions are available in the liquid. An electrical current is applied between a pair of inert electrodes immersed in the liquid. The negatively charged electrode is called the cathode, and the positively charged one the anode. Each electrode attracts ions which are of the opposite charge. Therefore, positively charged ions (called cations) move towards the cathode, while negatively charged ions (termed anions) move toward the anode. The energy required to separate the ions, and cause them to gather at the respective electrodes, is provided by an electrical power supply. At the probes, electrons are absorbed or released by the ions, forming a collection of the desired element or compound.

Good luck with your test!

Thanks for all the replies! When do you think that will happen-the next stage?

Fine. I'm not a hard one to crack, by the way. I'm an average lazy brat. A moody split personality, crazy brat. That's me. A brat.

It's pretty much the same. Whichever way I go, I'll still have a hard time. So whatever. I will have to study real hard. It's about time I get my brain working anyways.

Oh. Now I get it. Thanks!

Depends on social skills. heh.

Haha. I guess it's difficult then. What have I gotten myself into? Oh well...that's just the way it is, huh?

silkworm, can you explain? I'm kind of low on the understanding part. What do you mean?

Does anyone have the time to guess mine? Give it a shot.