calranthe

I wanted to revive this thread, because that always seems like a good idea, I am autistic we are still trying to lock down where on the spectrum but I have an inability to lie, the concept of lying is "off" to me it doesn't feel real in my head. I am 51 and was married for 20 years to an amazing woman who unfortunately was very ill and died in 2018, she loved to paint and always asked me to critic her work knowing there would be no bias in my response, being unable to lie makes you understand just how much of a survival trait lying is, or deception, she always told me that she valued that honesty. So the "does my bum look fat?" the answer would be based on fact, knowing my Wife spent 3 months designing and creating her own dress, knowing how much that hurt her frail and weakened hands and knowing when she finished it there was flaws in the dress design and it didn't really suit her (not opinion), how do you think it made me feel to convey that to her. I have never in my life been able to plan a surprise birthday party, I was never able to buy a present for someone early because I couldn't keep it hidden. All the way to the other side of the coin where my Wife is laying in bed dying and she asked me how she was and I had to tell her. To the moment when she had a double cardiac arrest and I knew enough about her heart condition to tell the Doctors to stop trying she isn't coming back. And the truly dark and dangerous side an inability to lie to myself, which is not a great survival trait.