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It's not punishment for the child. Punishment is the action for doing something wrong which the child did not. The mother should also do her best to make sure her child should does not percieve it that way. They also should not find out as a child but more of a young adult. The child would most likely respect their mother more for being able to go through with the birth even though it would be painful. All of your reasons deal with certain circumstance's which are not always present in these cases (which is why the word "may" is so common in your reply).That mother "may" also have a better life because of the child. The child "may" grow up to be someone great. I am pro-choice but I don't believe that every woman in this scenario should be able to abort an unborn child. As far as continuing college why wouldn't you be able to finish? There are alot of programs out there and plenty of ways to get help with that if the mother is willing. And if your family disowns you because you decide to keep the baby than that wasn't much of a true family to begin with. Your' "family" should be there to support you whether they agree with it or not. I understand it might break current relationships down but why would you want to be with someone who had different morals than you and wouldn't do all they could to help you? As far as being fair goes; if the world were fair she wouldn't have been raped in the first place. Why not at least give the child a chance to be what they can be and decide for themselves how their life should be. To make that decision for the child would just make the situation even more unjust.

 

I agree adoption is not easy and it's not always the answer but the mother does have that option and if after 9 months she's grown close enough to that baby to want to keep it then that would overpower the negative circumstance that got her pregnant and help her through the tough times and bad memories.

 

I'm prochoice because I believe no one has the right to make that decision for her; but then again no one has the right to make that decision for an unborn child. Why would you assume they would have a bad life and wish that they were aborted? A wise man once told me "Assumptions are the mother of all screw ups" and I think it would be a "screw up" for anyone to assume anything for an unborn child.

It would be a lovely world if no one got punished for things they didn't do. People falsely imprisoned - are they not being punished' date=' as they had never done anything wrong? It is still a punishment whether they are completely innocent or not.

You are a guy, this could never happen to you and you are bloody lucky that that's the case. Everyone can say they are pro-life, pro-choice and anti-abortion but until it happens to them how can they know how they will be affected and what they will think? And as it can never happen to you I don't think you should judge those who make that difficult decision.

However, rules and regulation should remain the same. I think that if there is even the slightest chance of viability outside the womb then abortion should be illegal. And babies can survive at 24 weeks. I think the absolute limit should be 13-14 weeks, unless the mothers life is at risk. There was an issue recently here about a baby being aborted at 28 weeks because it had a cleft palate. I think that is diabolical.

I think most abortions are done "out of convenience"

If we look at abortions as a whole this may be true. But this topic was centred around being raped and getting pregnant and in these cases i think covenience is the last concern for the mother

 

In the case of a raped mother I can understand what she feels' date=' but again, should the child be punished for that?

 

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Do you not think that it would be punishment for the child to be born to a mother who wants to love it but is reminded of the awful event that resulted in the conception every time she looks at it? Do you not think that it is punishment growing up knowing that your father is an evil rapist?

 

It is not something that you want to broadcast if you are raped and become pregnant and endless questions about the identity of the father if you are single is not going to help you emotionally recover from the ordeal.

 

It's not as simple as 'have the baby and adopt it'. If I carried a baby for 9 months I don't think I could give it away, regardless of who the father was. But at the same time I don't know if I could give it the life it deserved. Or if I would love it as much as future children I would have with someone who I did love.

 

And what happens during those 9 months carrying the child? You might have to leave school/college/uni because of being pregnant and if you cannot continue at a later date you may have wasted years of education. You may not have the support of your family and they may disown you. And current partners may not be able to cope with you keeping a rapists baby and relationships may break down.

 

Is that fair to a woman who never asked for any of this?