Lady Lassa

Thank you for your input fiveworlds, I am guilty of studying her but NOT "not paying attention to her". My drive to meet her needs properly is strong. Daddy has 2 jobs so that is the reason she wouldn't want him, she never saw him in the beginning. I was her constant, her only life source. He quit his 2nd job when we thought that might've been the problem.

I have studied Piaget's theory as well as Erickson, Jung, even Freud. She seems to be meeting these stages (developmental stages of each theory) months ahead of time. I want to foster that appropriately. Which is why I'm here too. I read extensively but alas you can't ask questions of a book.

She stopped the screaming in pain problem all together (lactose intolerance). I wish my doc would've came up with that idea. Since fixing that she's focused more on play and walking which keeps her from being upset all the time.

You know there are tons and tons of variables in my problem it's hard to really pin point what one solution might've worked. There is never really a proven science to raising a child, each one develops differently and at there own pace that's what makes us all such interesting individuals.

They are pretty limited and often quite biased.

 

http://www.apa.org/monitor/feb03/intelligent.aspx

http://psychology.about.com/od/intelligence/a/intelligence.htm

Agreed.

Here is a paper I read about the effects of poverty in a child's development. It suggests lower income, lower IQ.

Brief summary: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/1467-8624.00133/abstract

Article download: http://r.duckduckgo.com/l/?kh=-1&uddg=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.childrenshealthwatch.org%2Fupload%2Fresource%2FDuncan2000.pdf

Now in my opinion I don't think economic status should have anything to do with intelligence, I knew a girl in my 4th grade math class that was so poor she always had holes in her clothes and shoes, she was my best friend, we would read Shakespeare together and act out some of the parts (yeah, in 4th grade, lol). She was a wiz at math too she always had to help me in that area. She loved to read and read everything I think that was the key. The want, the ability, and the drive to read is very important for a child to have.

To start a thread asking for tips or advice on a problem that starts a discussion and brings people into it, then say 'you have your answer now' and not actually share that answer with us is a bit annoying... when asked politely what the answer was, so that people that were involved with the discussion or who were following it can draw an end conclusion to the thread, you reply with what you did, I find a little rude. Just saying. I can only assume you were upset by someone in some other thread or something. Anyway - if you are leaving, then who cares I suppose.

 

I was actually interested to find out what the problem was...

Here is the reason I replied as I did... http://www.scienceforums.net/topic/88799-giving-out-medical-advice-on-an-online-forum-split-from-children-hitting-themselves/

Let me go back and find my info and I'll post it for you.

To start a thread asking for tips or advice on a problem that starts a discussion and brings people into it, then say 'you have your answer now' and not actually share that answer with us is a bit annoying... when asked politely what the answer was, so that people that were involved with the discussion or who were following it can draw an end conclusion to the thread, you reply with what you did, I find a little rude. Just saying. I can only assume you were upset by someone in some other thread or something. Anyway - if you are leaving, then who cares I suppose.

 

I was actually interested to find out what the problem was...

I totally understand your frustration, I was in the same boat. I have a regained confidence in this site now and I know I wouldn't have wanted that type of conclusion so here are my findings...

About the biting and hitting (simple tantrum in response to frustration really) http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001922.htmand here is the full article... http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1745-7599.2012.00755.x/full

Now abour rhe separation anxiety I had belived my doctor when he said "When it's bedtime and she fussess put her in the crib, walk away and let her cry it out.", what was wrong with this was she was just figuring out object permanace and by my doing that she thought I fell off the face of the earth! I have changed her bedtime routine by reading this... http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/002392.htm, and it worked! She is more accepting of other people taking her from mommy because she knows I don't just go away. I also read one of D. W. Winnicotts books I found in my library that were helpful... http://www.amazon.com/Winnicott-On-The-Child-D-w/dp/0738207640?tag=duckduckgo-d-20

I hope this helps you as it did me.

Try not to take things too personally. Science is a very rough and tumble sport and that can be par for the course here. With only very few exceptions, it makes us all better.

 

Thank you I'll try. Great pic by the way very true.

That's good, then. Consequently recommend that it's time to use this moment to update approach/style to align with that desire. Let's seek information. Let's recognize that medical advise online is a bad idea. Let's talk about interesting topics more objectively, get over the sour grapes, and collectively move forward. Agreed?

Agreed... how frustrating... all this nonscence for what I originally wanted and was crucified for wanting.

There are two basic reasons people seek medical advice on the internet.

 

1. They think they may be sick/afflicted with some condition.

2. They want more information about a condition they either have, or know someone who does.

 

On scenario #1, the internet is the absolute worst place to try and get accurate information. Symptoms of various medical conditions can often overlap, and self diagnosis is playing with fire. I honestly wish WebMD had never created their stupid symptom checker.

 

If you plug in fever (99-101), chills and cough you get everything from the common flu to Meningitis. Oh and Anthrax inhalation.

 

However, I use scenario #2 quite frequently. I was recently diagnosed with hypothyroidism, and given pills for it. I wanted to know if there were more effective treatments, and what the effects of the condition were, so I read up on it. In this case, the internet (using reputable sources), saves me time spent at the doctors office, or trying to hunt down the information in a library somewhere, and it lets better arm myself with directed questions for my doctor when I see him next.

This fits my situation better. I am just like you here I use scenario #2 almost all the time. You know it took me 8 months of research to find a suitable crib matress? I have a thinking problem, I do it too much.

I am with you about webMDs symptom checker but it was designed for the point and click, instant gratification type of people.

On another note, I actually opened my doctors eyes to a problem and diagnosis by bringing in a peer reveiwed paper I found and printed from http://www.nlm.nih.gov/.

From a science forum, don't seek advice, seek information.

Thats exactly what I wanted and was misunderstood. I even said that in an earlier post, but someone shot me down.

Ugh, normally when I leave a forum I never look back. But I did have hope that a science forum would be based upon the pursuit of, well, science (and generally these people love and retain information). So I succoumbed to curiosity and returned. My deal was not limited to medical advice my deal was the suppression of information by what I'm not sure really, I think fear or ignorance. So here's my clarity...

andrewcellini, on 30 Apr 2015 - 12:35 AM, said:

 

 

i'm not sure i understand. do you think that it would help your situation out more to have "educated guesses" from people doing what amounts to quick google and database searches, or "educated guesses" from people who actually work in the field which deals with your situation (whatever that may be)?

Both would've been awesome, but I like to read peer reviewed, challenged studies. Yes I am boring I actually get a buzz from a paper written in the scientific method formula, lol. I don't consider advice just from mouth, I need stuff to back it up especially when I don't know something for sure.

I've been scared off this forum/site and strongly advised to not help people in this forum/site. Even when I want to present hard proof, sorry. I will contribute elsewhere.

Thank you to all who have tried to help me. I have my answer now. I am no longer in need of help on this topic.

This is very sad I was hoping to find people who like to brainstorm, discuss, or hash out ideas using proof they find. It's basically free college not only that but a path to higher intelligence. I completely understand what you are all saying though. I would never tell anyone that orange juice cures cancer and post a link to some crazy secluded hippies page that has no weight to it. What I would do is post something that has been studied, peer reviewed, or hashed out and credited by multiple respected professionals.

btw I've never seen, read, or heard anything about orange juice curing cancer.

I really am sorry for frustrating the higher-ups. As far as me personally, I will keep my mouth (posting relevant info I find) and my mind (looking for relevant info to post) shut like other mindless and suppressed individuals.

Sorry I didn't mean to lead anyone astray or to offend. What if someone was studying to be a doctor, they would also need knowledge everywhere and anywhere they can get it (good and bad), so lets not filter information let's keep it raw and easily available that's why it's awesome to post links.

I'm the type of person that believes all information is precious and needed, it's up to the individual how to use it.

 

Psychology isn't my favorite science, but there exists a measure called Borderline Pathology of Childhood (BPC). I know not whether self-harming behavior is part of that measure, nor the measure's relationship to adult borderline.

Molestation in childhood appears to be one cause of borderline pathology in adulthood.

Thank you for posting links to actual information. I created a thread a while ago that received the generalized "Go talk to your doc." responses , I mean I wouldn't have asked for information elsewhere if my doctors where more informative. Or on the other hand maybe I wanted to be more informed before I talk to my doctors.

Anyway thank you for helpful information, I wish more people would had out tools instead of advice (unless it's advice with tools... BONUS!)

Alas, the doctors are of little help that's why I and thousands of others reach out to the internet. I'm just looking for an intelligent brainstorm with like-minded psychology buffs. Maybe even dropping a link to a page you think would be helpful.

I'm trying to raise a responsible thinker and not a mindless comsumer, so every step I take is thought through thoroughly.

Thank you for trying to help, I realise you did care enough to post.

I wish I knew why kids do this. My step daughter did this a lot! Then my daughter started doing this at 5 months old now shes 15 months old and still does it. I think it's a learned behaviour however my step daughter doesn't live here and visits once in a while.

I have also entertained the idea that it might be genetic. For instance she is predisposed to disciplining herself so when she's told no it's just a self confirmation to discipline. The reason for my fleeting thought of genetics is because my family said I never exhibited that behaviour however the fathers side said they saw it all the time and both kids are from the same father.

I hate this problem because in my mind it's a severly dangerous behaviour. Very serious problems can occur from josseling the brain around like that at such a young age.

I have a problem. When my daughter was born there was NEVER (not an exaggeration) a time when she didn't need comfort/picked up. She spends 90% (not an exaggeration), of her time sreeching and wrything around like she is in pain. When I made her pediatrician aware of this he said it's a phase that she'll grow out of eventually, just make sure she is not hurt/wet/hungry/bored/lonely or psysically annoyed (tight clothing, hair wrapped around toes etc...), then if the sreeching continues to put her down and let her cry it out.

She is now 15 months old and it has not stopped, in fact her behaviour has become more dangerous and alarming. Now she hits people including herself and she violently will thrash around or throw her head into everything in front of her if she is told no, or if she is not getting what she wants.

I'd like to say I'm a very smart person, I have over 50 credit hours of Psychology under my belt and she is STUMPING me! Granted my psych focuses on more adult behaviour, but I have taken a few developmental classes which I've aced that begin at birth.

I've tried the gentle approach, the cry it out approach, even the ignore it approach not one has worked. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, or doing it in the wrong order.

I should also add she is rediculously attached to me, she will thrash and scream if anyone including daddy tries to pick her up or if I simply put her down (ya know I gotta pee sometimes).

Damn I wish there was a formula for this lol.

HELP!