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Coral Rhedd

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  1. [quote name=reverse Some people will keep on putting themselves under increasing pressure despite all the warnings from professionals and friends' date=' that is stupid.[/quote] I think that rather depends upon how much pressure an individual can stand. I remember reading in books (novels ) where doctors recommended a sea cruise. However most people have to make a living and the more strained their circumstances, the more necessary work is. Since I work in rehabilitation, I've known people who've had to choose between lessened mental pressure and paying the rent. Sometimes, for some people, there just aren't any good choices. Also, I have noticed that at the beginning stages of depression, people tend to deny to themselves how depressed they really are, and deeper into depression, feeling snakebit, they tend to underestimate how much they are capable of, as if recovery were a dim light at the end of a very long tunnel.
  2. Pretty much. You will know one if you have one. I think another word they may use for it now is decompensation. But I am no psychologist. One will probably come along presently if you wait around.
  3. I feel sorry for men like that. Their fashion choices are sooo limited. Actually, the psych test thing could present some problems. It is time we realized that we all probably fit somewhere in the DSM. And if eliminate possible presidents who are sociopaths, we will find the remaining pool sadly limited.
  4. Actually, this is probably the realistic assessment. People usually end up doing what they want. They just need to find the proper rationalizations that allow them to follow through. For instance, in this case Franco can use his wife's reluctance to go to counseling as an excuse for seeking emotional sustenance outside of his marriage. If, in his marriage, the physical intimacy also dwindles (as it so often does without the emotional connection), he can then use this as an excuse to begin a sexual relationship with the woman that Obnoxious so charmingly refers to as a "voluptous vixen." On the other hand, if we don't hear some feedback from Franco soon on our sage advice, I think we can assume his first post was a hoax.
  5. A basic IQ test would be reasonable. For the highest job in a nation, I think an IQ of at least 110 should be required. In the U.S., for instance, such a requirement would probably have allowed us to avoid some our current embarrassments. You run into real problems when the electorate doesn't want a president smarter than the average Joe or Jane.
  6. She needs to move beyond crisis mode to rebuild her life. As cruel as it may seem, your ongoing support in her life may actually be creating a stumbling block to her actually doing this. Emotional attachment? I think you think you may be in love with her. And we all know this as well. There are few women who have not appreciated the unique and sometimes devoted emotional support of male friends and lovers. We know well that our need of men is a powerful appeal that attracts men who want to be our knights in shining armor. I have every confidence that you are a good and decent person. Simply tell her that your attachment to her is developing beyond what is comfortable for you and that it is distracting you from placing you loyalty and hopes for the future where it rightly belongs: With your wife and children. But be honest. Are you hoping to find that such frankness on your part will elicit and similar feeling of attachment and declaration from her? You need not bear you soul make this break. Dwelling upon your feelings for her will only lead to possible embarrassment or an even more complicated situation. Trying to put myself in her shoes, I would say that healing would be best for me. Doesn't passion always wax and wane in marriages? Tell your wife that you are thinking of getting out if she doesn't opt in by going to counseling. Tell her counseling is not negotiable; it is necessary. Yes. Exactly. I do not blame you. However, you need to review where things began to fall apart in your marriage. Nah! Just human. Don't torture yourself. Extricate yourself. The fact that you chose to share all this with a bunch of strangers indicates something about you. What do you think that is?
  7. Well that sort of depends upon the kind of information you are seeking, doesn't it? Sometimes we want closure; sometimes we don't. Sometimes we feel like a nut; sometimes we don't. I quite enjoyed the whole thing. Truth is often in digression. (Or what passes for digression.)
  8. And how long did it take the scratches to heal?
  9. After reading through this thread, I have decided that it is a wonder that there are any scientists left in this world. I think we should take a moment to mourn any geniuses who must have died trying to figure out what kills them.
  10. Throughout my life, I have been blonde and I have been brunette. Because I am half Swedish, I have the fair complexion of a blonde and was blonde until age 12 when the Cherokee suddenly asserted itself and I became rapidly brunette. I did not feel like my old self so I bleached to become blonde again. I have always noticed that when blonde, I get more attention from men. I also have noticed that men assume I am not as smart when I am a blonde. When I was younger, thinner, and shapelier, this bothered me. I wanted to be attractive to men but I also wanted to be respected. So I went back to being a brunette. Now that I am older, I wish I had understood that men thinking you are dumb is not always a disadvantage.
  11. Hmm. Read that book years ago. Only now have I understood that Morris must have been saying our human ancestors were quite stupid.
  12. Okay. But then, why don't men have breasts too?
  13. You underestimate the power of sports bras. Also, after the age of twelve or thirteen, one begins to get used to them. Your question about cancer is an interesting one however. Last year my mother, who was 77 at the time had a mastectomy. She did not seem terribly concerned about the loss of her breast and was far more concerned about the loss of her appetite due to chemotherapy. I am curious here. What about female apes? Are they "swollen" more than dogs? I think the assumption is that they are visual signal to men. Hence the title of the thread. Why? Why is what we are concerned with. I doubt it. Past 30 or so, most women I know do not seem to spend much time thinking or talking about their breasts. I can only recall discussing breasts with (other than my daughter who is 23 and a little obsessed with aesthetics) only one woman over thirty. She was about 32 and seemed to be mostly concerned about how sensitive her nipples were to the cold. I thought she was a bit weird. Men seem to overrate how competitive women are with each other about physical appearance. More of the ones I know want to be thin to wear the good clothes. It seems to have little to do with men. We are more inclined to be envious, in my experience, over hairdressers and clothing budgets -- but I run with a rather frivolous bunch. When we aren't trashing the Bushes, demonstrating for peace, and going to book reading fundraisers to feed the homeless, we give thought to whether or not we could possibly wear any of the Marc collection. (The answer is no.) Unfortunately, the sexes have had to adapt to many things concerning each other -- which convinces me that, if there is a God, he/she has a rather sick sense of humor. I just wish I were sexually attracted to women. I have not watched a football game since I was divorced (thank God ) nineteen years ago.
  14. Even when they listen, they often hear the wrong things. But that's another thread.
  15. Consider the date Tension's post. I think he may be over it by now.
  16. Almost every woman who has ever dieted has been dismayed to find that her breasts were one of the first places she lost weight. That's because breasts are indeed mostly fatty tissue. Now if the cultural ideal is a little waist and big breasts, ala Barbie doll, then a problem arises. How to maintain a little waist while keeping the breasts large? Medical science has found a solution: Breast implants. It is amazing the lengths people will go to in order to fit the cultural ideal. This insight came to me when my daughter and I were thumbing through a fashion magazine. There were many photos Donald Trump's new wife. Her body came as close as humanly possible to the Barbie doll ideal. As I was admiring her enviously, my daughter who works in a fashion boutique scoffed: "Fakes." It seems after a certain amount of fitting room experience, it is easy to spot a boob job. If rich men get women with bigger "breasts" then we would have a clear economic relationship between the size of breasts and the amount of Wooly Mammoth a hunter can drag home.
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