Posts posted by Lyudmilascience
yea it really makes me feel like the world is not fair, and it makes me less motivated because i might not get rewarded for my effort. the odd thing is i did not cry right away, i did not feel bad right away but when it hit ,it hit hard, i started crying the next day over dropping a dish. I feel bad over that, I still really loved her. is it normal not to cry right away?0
peppers with four bumps are female and with three male. It makes me wonder what other kind of plants the gender is easily identified,I know of a lot where the female has spots and the male does not but sometimes they are so faint it is hard to tell.0
if karma existed then why are there children's hospitals and children committing suicide?
I know some people will say oh its something they did in their past lives, but I think that is a BS excuse to not admit that life is not fair for some possibly many people.
if there were past lives why dosent it work that the people get punished in them rather then a different life wouldn't that make more sense?
I just found out that a child I used to babysit and play with commit suicide. I did not even get to go to their funeral because they are in Europe. She did it because she was spanked at home and bullied at school and it all just got to her. I talked to a few of her relatives. it was really tough for me to handle and still is, I hope I will feel better with time but I just find myself thinking about it more and more now. it just makes me upset hearing from people that they support spanking their children, I just can not believe anyone spanks a child.this is the first and only person i know who commit suicide and she was a young kid so its really hard for me to handle. I feel so strongly about this topic. I hope one day no one will ever spank any children. What kind of justification can you give to say that spanking a child is moral?
I used to volunteer at a children's hospital and I heard there were babies born with cancer. it doesnt sit well with me saying these kids deserve terminal illnesses, there are kids born with all different types of things, deformations, HIV and other things. I used to think that volunteering there would bring me some sort of fulfillment and satisfaction but it did the opposite, i just could not believe how horrible life is for some people.0
I think the key would be to have the most moral people in it so I would have to set starting point rules that everyone has to follow, thoes how don't with have to be in a different society.
I dont know this is a lot to think about.0
yep or just not change it at all.1
is finding the right person science of belief based? can science explain how its supposed to work ? animals dont care as much as people in what personality of mate they mate with they don't have much options but people have any options and our psychology is much more complicated then animals.most people say the right person will come along. how do they know, what if he never will, i feel like society has a negative view overall. they think that there is a soulmate rather then a variety of people that your compatible with.it would make it so much harder if there was only one right person for us, one person that we will never divorce. is this something that can be answered by science?or is it something like the meaning of life there can be only opinion surrounding it?i just have a broken family so i worry about it full of divorce and cheating.0
after reading the comments i have figured out how to word myself, i was trying to figure out how to say, I think that people can be classified as something other then animals because we often separate ourselves form animals but in other cases we say we are just like animals.like plants are living things but they are not animals. its kind of a contradiction to have both. we are more aware of the world then animals, bats may have echo location but they are not even comparable when it comes to the amount of information we know about the world, no animal knows that much.0
If we are not animals then what are we? We share countless biological systems with other animals...even with plants. I think it's odd to distinguish us from animals.
sorry for the misunderstanding, I don't mean that we are not animals, I think we are more then animals, and should be put in a different category to distinguish us from animals.0
I see, thank you0
I know I haven't been on here for a while, or posted anything, but that's because I am embarrassed to post my questions, i feel dumb asking these things. why does nail polish look better underwater? it looks more deeper and a brighter color. i cant seem to photograph it really well because i can not work my phone with one hand that well, it doesnt set the sharpness where i want it to be. there must be some kind of way the light bounces around once it gets underwater, i also noticed you can see a better contrast between where you put a think coat of nail polish on then thin. i know this is a really girly thing of me to ask.
p.s. I don't know which category this goes in, i thought it should go into physics because it deals with light. sorry if this is in the wrong category.2
is it possible that we should not classify humans as animals; because they have a natural better understanding of the world in the bigger picture? I dont know how hominids thought but i think even they question their existence and in almost any circumstance create tools and lead to doing science. I think science is the main way we advance. we do experiments and observe the world. so is it possible to put humans in a different category because of the fact that they are mentally too different? maybe this just comes from the fact that I hate when people call humans animals. it makes it seem like we have not evolved, but i am always amazed of how evolved we actually are and how much better we have become from creating fire, how much we can create now.0
No one is happy all of the time. ;-) We are are complex creatures and experience lots of thoughts and emotions, they are part of life as a human being. Be yourself. When I said to choose to be happy it was just meant as encouragement, don't read too much into it (it's not always possible anyway). I have a friend that says that intelligent people can over think things and get depressed. I guess it is just life. You have to make your own decisions.
You seem like a very honest, brave and intelligent person to me. This thread is very personal and you are very open about your feelings in this very public place. I can be a bit self conscious sometimes but try to be open and honest. Sometimes it can be good to talk about feelings and emotions and things. On the whole I have had a lot of joy from life and really love it.
thank you , I am a very honest an emotional person and I just do not have any place to release all my emotion so I end up never satisfied writing or thinking about it. i do over think things because I want to solve my own problems. I don't have too many things in science on here because I do not know that much. so I mainly just read others posts and post on opinion ones. I wish I was less emotional and more motivated to learn science. The things I want to be good at are not the things I am actually good at. Its hard to live with that.0
It is not uncommon - my father is a racist, misogynistic, bigot who hates everyone who isn't a drinking buddy, a fellow racist or of his or a member of his family. I swore early in my life that I would NEVER treat a woman the way he treats my mother. I have challenged him many times over things and he just thinks I am a trouble maker who likes to cause arguments, he NEVER looks inward as a result of being criticised, he always blames the person who is doing the criticising for just not minding their own business or for stirring up trouble. He is selfish and spends any and all of his money on alcohol even if his family has to go without.... I keep the peace with him because my Nan begged me to as he takes his anger out on my mother if I argue with him. I love my mother and keep the peace with him so I can go and see her... I still sorta love him unconditionally as a father, but I do not like him - he a complete arsehole.
So - I feel for you - If you look at from another angle then it could be so, so, so much worse, so count your blessings and choose to be happy friend. Good luck. x
thanks It kind of makes me feel better but count your blessings and your so lucky does not, it makes me worry that I get too much and i do not deserve it, it makes me feel guilty for being spoiled. I really appreciate everything i have and I feel like I am doing as much as i can to show my appreciation. But i am not the one spoiling myself and I still do not feel good in life. It bothers me that people tell me you should be happy in life because your so lucky and i still dont feel happy. i do not know how to make myself happy.0
I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex. I'm just not a sexually savvy person. I'm stiff, ugly, awkward, and uninteresting. I just can't do it. It's not for me. It wouldn't be right for me, and it wouldn't be right for the girl either. I wouldn't be here saying this if it weren't true. I just wouldn't feel right. It's a very tough dichotomy. I just don't think its right for someone like me to have sex. I'm not sure I want to risk passing my genes on either.
this is the reason for not having a girlfriend, you need to reflect on yourself and higher your self esteem in some way either through friends or a therapist. the fact that you think you are all these bad things about yourself probably causes women to not be interested. I am a woman and I would want to have sex with a guy, and I would want the guy to feel comfortable having sex with me. I have low self esteem to, but not not up to this point, and it is only low around people im not attracted to, as soon as i see a hot guy, i have high self esteem, I'm more interested in showing off to them even if I feel ugly I pretend im beautiful around them. dont worry about passing down bad genes, what if you pass on really good genes? I think you need a person who is not interested in sex someone asexual. They are very hard to come across, most people are more then happy to have sex with the right guy.1
Lets face it.
Most human beings on this planet today are outright evil and selfish.
Animals are better than humans in almost every way.
Animals never offend you, animals never say mean things to you, animals aren't so greedy and corrupt and animals never do bad things to each other for no reason.
Only humans do these bad things to each other therefore animals are way better than humans.
I know I sound like a misanthrope but it's true. Most people on this planet are shitty and greedy.
I do not believe most people are selfish or evil. I would hope that most people do not believe this. most of the ones i know do not. most people are kind, they want friends, we need to work in teams for survival. animals do not have comprehension of evil or corrupt. they can not be compared to humans because they are different psychologically. a misanthrope is a person who dislikes human kind, so I agree you sound very misanthropic, glad you know that, but I do not think that is a true reflection of society. It is not to your advantage to live with this point of view that most people are immoral or evil. It is probably hard for you to make friends in life, or maybe you dont even want friends.0
I am honest with her, she is just cold towards my feelings, I told her I want to improve our relationship. she told me our relationship is fine. I fixed the problems a long time ago. i told her I think it could be better. she did not say anything to that, I do not know why buy i felt so upset that day, I went in my room and cried after that, she just dose not care whether or not Iam upset form her communication towards me.
So what i am saying is I do not like our relationship i do not know how to fix it and like you guys said I honestly do not think cutting her out is a good idea i would feel bad about it. I am stuck in a position i do not like and do not know how to change it. every time i cry she either says you have to toughen up because your problems are all minor crying over nothing or you just want to cry, you are just doing it for attention. she dosent understand me or look at things form my point of view.
thankyou for your responses. emotional people do rely on emotion to describe the world but she doesn't show emotion that much she doesn't smile or get angry. but she lives in a different reality and does not listen to what I am saying or just contradicts it. I hope things will get better once I find friends or another relationship. I just hove no friends so i rely on her as a friend.0
I am watching memoirs of an invisible man, I usually do not like anything older then 2000 but this one is really interesting so far.0
How do I deal with people who live in their own world? my mom has some crazy beliefs and dosen't really pay attention to anything in this world. My mom believes in breatharianism ,this is what it is http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Breatharianism (but she dosen't think there's any space ship) She thinks that people can live without food and water. She thinks that a person can turn partially into a god and live without food and water. she also believes in chacras, does yoga and believes that some people are magical.
Every time I talk to her about finding a job or just asking for advice on something she always brings up her beliefs and her solution to anything is something like repeat a mantra. I ask her if there is any science behind it she says none but I just have to believe her.
Is it okay to cut my mom out of my life? it bothers me that she can only think about her beliefs and judges everything from this point of view, she did not used to be like this. but I just do not like spending time with her, or talking to her. Since I was a teen she got these crazy beliefs, and that was the point in my life when I needed her I really wanted to be close with her but she didn't want to with me. How do I explain to her that I do not want to be around her because she cant let go of her beliefs and they interfere with our relationship?
she makes me worry because she tells me that if she stops doing yoga she will get all these health problems and I do not know how to reassure her she is going to be fine, she dosen't believe me when I tell her shes fine. she also says she never gets enough time doing yoga and sometimes she feels pain and tightness inside from not doing enough yoga.
what can I do? its just so difficult to deal with her.0
The choice is yours, be it depression or relationships, nobody can sort it for you, that doesn't mean you can't seek help (I strongly suggest you do) but ultimately it's down to you.
So stop whining and wallowing pathetically in self pity and do something about it, go see a doctor/professional/friend about the depression and the rest will sort itself out.
I very much agree with dimreepr I think it is your depression and before you can get a girlfriend you might want to fix that.
I am currently friends with a guy that I met on a dating cite, he has severe social anxiety, depression and ocd. I have been telling him he is not the right guy for me and even debating weather or not we should stay friends because of his conditions. its even hard to be friends with people that have a severe mental illness. he told me that if I break up the friendship that he will kill himself and I was seriously worried, I don't know how he is at this point I got scared and stopped talking to him after that.
I do not know if I have depression but I try to be positive around guys especially ones I like I do not let my flaws show. I act in the best way possible to attract them. I might have depression but I do not think its severe enough to keep away other people because I get a lot happier around people if i do not think about myself.1
no it cant be all in our minds because if i did not exist it would not be in my mind yet it would exist for everyone else, or if i existed but did not believe in the universe it would still exist. sometimes i wish it didn't exist if i stop believing in it but that never happened.0
Well now you're changing the conditions while still criticizing my choices. Now you're just talking about "a good human", instead of humans in general. In this case, yes, I would save a selfless member of Doctors Without Borders before a snarling, rabid wolf who eat babies (over Vegan protests).
But consider this scenario. I know a man who regularly cheated on his wife the whole time they were married. After their two children were grown and out of the house, he left his wife for another woman, but they never divorced. The other woman eventually left him, and his wife took him back in, believing that her vows meant she shouldn't give up on him.
He lost all their savings on stock market speculations. He now refuses to find work, and while he's too young for Social Security, he's pushing his wife to take it early, which means her fixed income for the rest of her life will be much lower than if she waited. She can't leave him because she feels loyalty to the marriage. It's like he's drowning, she's trying to help him, but he's pushing her under to save himself.
She's now borrowing money from friends who really can't afford it, so it's like he's pulling those people underwater with him too. The man is a sociopath, a liar, and he is a detriment to anyone he comes into contact with.
If he was the human in your save-a-human story, and my dog was the animal, you'd be asking me to save someone I know will cause more harm than good to people I know and love, over an animal who has given me and my family nothing but love and companionship. By choosing my dog, I could actually help more humans, humans who maybe deserve my help more than this man.
It's more than just choosing humans over animals just because we're the same. Some humans have done nothing to deserve being treated as humans.
sorry I thought you were answering my question about saving a human you don't know over your pet. What do you think about saving a human you don't know over your dog? you assumed the person was unkind and not deserving but what if you didn't know if he was good or not? I didnt mean to change the senereo I was just thinking of a different one. say you have no way of finding out weather they are good or not at that point. I also think you cant completly blame the guy in your story because the woman is choosing to borrow money from friends for him and stay married. but its probably 90 percent his fault. she shoulnt be staying with a guy that's dragging her down.and what about people whos job it is to save people do you think if just a criminal is dying should the person save them? the person knows they are criminal, they wont go to jail if they got saved and the person might loose their job if they dont.
If I don't know the kindest person in the world, how kind they are has essentially no impact on me. Whether a person considers animals as being more important depends on what people and animals they have interacted with. The only way to ensure the comparison of kindest person and kindest animal matters is to consider all people in the analysis. Because for any one person to like animals more than people, they simply need to have animals that are kinder than the people they've interacted with. As others have pointed out, that's not difficult for some people.
thats a good answer thanks. does the person that lets say mainly had bad interactions with people in life consider them self and their own good actions as a reason to value humans, they might think that their are other people kind like me out there. From my experience I would hate all people, but I do not, because I know I am an incredibly kind person. I never had any good friends after eighth grade every friend that i had either left early or betrayed me yet i still prefer people. there is a saying treat people the way you want to be treated. I still treat people very well because I want to find someone like me. Do you think most people who prefer animals consider themselves as the reason they should love humans more then animals?0
There are people I know who don't care about other people at all. Should I love them more than my dog? I don't.
I judge every creature by their actions. I love the ones who's actions make my life better.
I agree, but I would care about them more only if they were not harming me and helping humanity more then taking from it, so being at least a little productive. so would you say that the actions include productivity? or is it only based on kindness towards others? I don't think anyone should love them more, I just think in general most people try to be good and most of them follow the law and if it came down to saving a good human or just an animal I would choose the human. there will be more animals but the humans can not be replaced. I don't know. maybe I'm not right. I just have had many kind people in my life, I guess I attract good people. I also want to help everyone become kind and moral.
Which is not relevant, unless you change the premise to "all people like animals more than humans", which is obviously untrue.
I don't understand why would my statement have to be " all people like animals more then humans?"? It is relevant because I do not see how a person can care less about people then animals, the person is a person so you are also caring about yourself less then animals. yes people have done plenty of terrible things in this world to other people animals and the world but you would not want to not care as much as much about all people just because some very powerful ones are causing so much damage. I think you should judge them by what they have done and I believe most people are kind hearted. hopefully someone would not want all people to not exist just because one did something horrible. or all have a worse life then animals just because some people did something horrible.0
how can someone like animals more then people? people are kinder then animals. the kindest person is going to be kinder then the kindest animal. frankly it scares me when someone says they like animals more then people. people can do way more things in this world then animals and we should value that in humans. I think it is unethical to like animals in general over people or even the same as people. I think as people we should love and value people more. I think we should not mistreat animals but we should not treat them more special or better then people. I dont think anyone who claims they like animals more then or just as much as people really means it because they will definitely save their friends and family over an animal. even if a stranger was dying I would save them over my own pet. even if the stranger ended up being a drug addict or villain I would not regret saving them for all I know they could have been a good person. I wouldn't save them if they were a threat to me. I don't even think animals are capable of loving unconditionally, because i know really good dog and cat owners but their pet still ran away from them. they are not that loyal they only want to be with the person if they are helping the animal. once they stop they will never come back to the person. I do not think animals can love other species and I do not think animals can do something for another species and not want something in return, any animal doing a favor for another animal will want something in return if its not for their family. people can just do favors out of the goodness of their heart and not want anything in return and I love that about humans, I am very much like that. another thing I like that people are doing is trying to improve the quality of life for many people, as many as possible. the person that likes animals more then people focused on how people are causing all the problems like killing our planet and animals,people seek revenge, have wars but dosent look at the good things people do, animals dont do anything good for other species intentionaly.0
If I can get away with unethical experiments, have no moral compass, and advance my knowledge and understanding of the world, why should I bother with ethical considerations?
Furthermore if I proceed and discover new and relevant information are other researchers ethically obliged not to use the knowledge I've obtained unethically?
For instance if a bunch of people were tortured and killed in a basement while testing the effects of a drug that could cure cancer and other diseases, is the medical community ethically obligated not to read my findings after my arrest so as to not symbolically condone unethical behaviour?
Also this is on a highly irrelevant, almost completely tangential side not but how many bodies do you have to have before it counts as "murder"?
you should bother because you should think about keeping the world fair. why would you have the right to do this without consequences and nobody elce. that isn't fair, someone can find cancer treatments and other cures faster in the basement by torturing bodies but for some reason you think you have the right to do it without consequences, someone will do the same thing get caught and have to suffer the consequences. its not fair for you to do one bad thing and get away with it otherwise i should be able to do a bad thing and get away with it. what do you mean how many bodies do you have to have before its murder? killing one body is murder.0
if karma existed then why are there children's hospitals and children committing suicide?
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yea that's a good answer, I agree the parents are causing it. But then those exact kids would be punished straight from birth, they could have been born to healthy parents that dont do any of thoes things, and there are healthy parents that still have kids born with deformities because of their own genetics. I am having a real hard time getting over it but I really hope that karma does not exist, not that i have done anything bad, but because I dont want there to be injustices blamed on children, like saying they did something bad in their pased lives, even adults, blamed that way.